Wednesday, September 30, 2009

MySpace Isn't Always Bad

     I met Correy through myspace originally. I tend to overlook the people I don't know on myspace. I usually give the profile one quick glance and if I didn't recognize them instantly or if they didn't go to my high school/college, I rather quickly hit the "deny" button.
 

     On this particular night I clicked on "Kado's" profile, so I thought his name was Kado to begin with. I noticed I didn't go to school with him, nor did I recognize his picture. I almost scrolled back up the page when I noticed it said at the bottom West Valley Scuba Diving. I immediately accepted his friend request. Then I instantly panicked because I realized I didn't recognize him.
 

     The next day was the first day back to school after break. Walking to my last class that day, I saw Correy walking with Matt (I believe) and I shouted out, "Hey Kado!" I got no response. "Kado!" I thought I was going nuts, like this wasn't the right guy or had a twin or something. So people around me we giving me the crazy lady look. When he finally realized that I was there, he was like hey! I was sooooo confused.
 

     "Are you Kado?" Both Matt and Correy start laughing. I'm even more confused. He said his name was actually Correy but his friends called him Kado. He gave no other explanation other than that. I thought he was strange and funny from that day on.

--> Ashley Caraway

Dad story

     I'm Correys Dad, I have many, many stories about Correy, I guess I haven't written until now because I was hoping to create more memories of him, my realization won't let me grasp that he's gone! I keep waiting to wake up in the morning & just see the Montero keys thrown on the kitchen table, this is where everyone leaves their keys, so when I'd see everyones keys on the table, I thanked God for my sons all coming home. I guess you never really get over losing a son or daughter, hopefully it gets easier because right now there isn't a day goes by without me breaking down at some point, usually more than once! I know everyone grieves in their own way, I just wake up sick to my stomach everyday. Correys girlfriend Rachel is a doll, Correy definitely picked a winner!! A lot of his friends stop by, Matt, Mike, his wife & Trish, our neighbor Kevin stops in daily, all are such great friends & family of ours.We THANK You ALL for your memories & stories.

   

One story about Correy I love is last fall, around the middle of October we went up for a 3 day camping trip, we went to one of our favorite campsites, Eureka Valley Campground. We got there early in the AM, we set up camp, tent, stove & unloaded all the gear from the van. Correy said he was going to the bathroom & he'd be right back, he came back in less than 5 seconds & said, Dad, there are no bathrooms! I just laughed at him & said Correy, I seen you go into the bathroom, it's right there. He said, the building is there but the actual toilet fixture is gone! There is only an open 4' oval hole where the toilet should be. Within this camp site there are 3-4 sets of toilets, or glorified outhouses, we went to each one & sure enough, there were no toilets. Each campground has an assigned campground host, it seems our camp host left for the season the week before. He was told when he started the job, this being his first season; that he is responsible for all the toilets in the campsite. He definitely took it literally, as when he left he pulled all the toilet fixtures from the buildings & locked them up in a storage cabinet in the campground. Not only did he remove the toilets, he left the 4 foot round gaping hole uncovered in each toilet! These are pit or vault toilets, so the pit is no less than 10-12 feet deep, anyone can now fall in. We roped all the toilet buildings closed, then I raced down to the phone & called Forest Service to tell them of the toilets & dangerous situation, they just said the guy in charge is off until the next day, they really didn't seem to care! We went back to camp, we camped in a front corner of the camp near a lot of bushes & a mountain of solid rock, back behind our camp I built a shale rock toilet, pretty cool, it was back in the bushes out of view, I dug a hole to use & piled the dirt up so after each use we could just kick some dirt over our deposits. I didn't make a toilet lid for the toilet because, HEY, WE ARE MEN, WE DON'T NEED A LID!!!
  
     Towards evening Correy & I went fishing to another camp, just below our, Pidgeon Flat. After fishing we used those bathrooms, yes they still had toilets! While using the restroom I felt how comfy the toilet was to our cold, hard, rock toilet I build for us, I decided I didn't want to squat over rocks for 3 days. Correy was in one bathroom & I was in the other next to his. I decided right there this toilet was going with me! The toilets are wedged in VERY securely inside an oval hole in the floor, so I had to rock the toilet back & forth, all the while kicking it like crazy & spouting obscenities at it, yelling for it to come out already! Like I said, Correy was in the toilet right next to me & he yelled, Dad, What did you have for dinner???? As Correy finished, he was standing outside as I kicked open the outhouse door with my foot & with the entire aluminum/plastic toilet over my head, I told Correy, open the back of the van! Correy shook his head no & said, YOU ARE NOT PUTTING THAT IN THE VAN! I said do you want to crap in a rock toilet for 3 days, Correy quickly opened the back of the van & covered his mouth & nose as I put the toilet in back. It was less than a mile back to our camp & it was getting pretty cold out, it was now about 7 PM, Correy rolled his window down & had half his body out the side window all the way to camp. Once in camp the van hadn't come to a stop yet, but Correy bailed out & ran. In our campground there were at least 8 other campsites with people in them, all in full view of the toilets. we decided to wait for dark to put our new found toilet in the outhouse nearest us. It was after 10 PM, when it seemed dark enough to do our mission impossible of carrying the toilet to the outhouse & installing it. It was very dark, I told Correy to go over & hold the outhouse door open & I'll bring over the toilet, place it inside & set it. As OUR PLANS usually go, I put the toilet over my head & was running with it, a bout 5 feet from the building, I didn't see the low hanging branch of a cedar tree & it whipped the toilet from my grasp & sent it rolling & making a loud noise, it was made of aluminum with a plastic clattering toilet seat. All the campers were now startled by this racket by the bathroom. Soon there were no less than 3-4 flashlights & spotlights on me chasing this toilet through the center of camp! Oh, Correy managed to make his way back to our camp & hid out! I tried to be as graceful as one can be with a toilet, I walked to the outhouse & installed it, while in the there I felt I should be the 1st to use it.

     Within the next half hour every camper there was blessing our toilet, no one asked how or where it came from. Early the next morning Forest Service showed up with 2 trucks, they unlocked the Host storage locker & began re-installing the toilets, when they got to ours, they just looked, scratched their heads, lokked around, did a recount, shrugged their shoulders as to why they had one extra toilet. We never told & no one else did either! Whooooo, I'm POOPED!

Joe Fedor

Correy Can't Dance


     So Stephanie, Correy and I were clueless as to what we were going to do one night. So we decided to get together anyway and see where the night took us. We picked Correy up for one of the first times at his house without scuba gear needing to be piled into the car at super speed because we were running late.
Anyway, we pull up and we see Correy do one of his funny backward looking glances while he laughs (one of his laughs that is still so memorable in my head), and he sees and shouts, "Ashley! Stephanie!" And I'd always shout back, "MONKEY!"
 

     Anyway he gets in the car and we start our adventure... we all loved to try and get lost, and we would for about twenty minutes and then we'd find our way back to a freeway or a major street we knew the name of. We ended up at one of those major lights and Thriller came on the radio. Stephanie and I got out of the car and started doing what we thought was an awesome and accurate impression of Michael Jackson (I'm sure others would disagree). The light turned green and there was no one behind us so we made Correy get out of the car or we threatened we wouldn't move the car. So he got out (and I wish we had a video camera then) and starts kicking his legs all around and pointing his fingers and quickly got back in as a car finally approached us from behind. So we jumped in and decided to get lost again.
 

      I don't know how we got into a target conversation, but we did as we girls often did and wanted to make a target stop for a Grease CD. So while in Target there was one of those music demos for CDS that Target had created like for different genres. So as we're listening we are dancing and singing at the top of our lungs (Correy included), and we probably did that for about an hour until some Target worker asked if we needed any help (probably thought there was something wrong with us) haha. We finally got our Grease CD along with some of the CDs we heard on the demo.
 

     We hop back in the car and start heading for Stephanie's house. We popped in the Grease CD and Correy knew absolutely no Grease songs! We were flabbergasted! We finally pulled up the driveway, and then... Grease Lightening starts playing. We turned up the song sooooo loud and we start dancing on the lawn "Go Grease Lightning, You're cutting up the quarter mile... Grease Lightning Go Grease Lightning." Correy caught on quick to the dance and before you knew it, he was singing and asked to play it in the house to dance again. I must admit... Correy can't dance! Even the most simplest dances. I loved every moment of that night!

(Ashley Caraway)

Sand Boobies


     Correy was on this downer at one point in his life because he thought he would never find a decent date or girlfriend that wouldn't screw him over. I immediately called Stephanie and told her to get her hispanic butt over to my house before I kicked it. Correy laughed, and we waited.

     She got there and I told them to grab a sweater and some flip flops because I was taking them to the beach. So we hopped into my car and we blasted Nysnc and Back Street Boys all the way up to the beach. Laughing and singing the whole way up.


     We finally got up there and I waddled my way over to the beach although I was only three months prego I still like to milk the fact that I was prego because Correy would carry me. And truthfully I enjoyed being carried before I would have to do it myself with a baby in six months from then.


     So we finally got to the sand and I told Stephanie that we were going to make a sand woman for Correy. Correy turned red and laughed his embarrassed laugh. We gave this woman a pear shaped body and made enormous boobies. We told Correy that we found a woman for him that wouldn't screw him over. So he got on top of her and grabbed those sand boobies. It was soooo funny. We took a picture as proof he finally got to touch boobs. (Sorry Vanessa!)


     Leaving the beach we could see our sand woman and Correy had to break it to her that they needed to stop seeing each other. He was very sweet and said that it wasn't her it was him. We made fake money for the sand woman to take a cab home. Haha! Good ol' Core. I know I know, we were weird.


~Ashley Caraway

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Dr. and Mrs. Fedor

We went hiking together in Santa Clara at some Open Space area. We were passing this one girl who Correy decided to say hi to in passing. She looks at Correy asks, "What are you studying?" So we stop. Looking confused Correy looks down at his shirt which reads "OHSU School of Medicine." He looks up at her all casually and says "Medicine." She proceeds to ask, "do doctor's have special time off or something?" (as it was the middle of the semester at "regular" colleges. Correy answers, "Absolutely." She thought it was the coolest thing he was becoming a doctor, and she looks at me and asks if I was his girlfriend. He says, "This is my wife." She gives us the most bummed out look and says, "Well enjoy the rest of your hike, bye now."
Well out of hearing range we crack up. I tell him that could quite possibly be his last chance for a number... he says, if that's so I'd rather live without it, i mean really "special time off??"

So for like a week he was Dr. Fedor, and in the same week he'd call me Mrs. Fedor. It was funny... you'd have to be there I think.


***Ashley Caraway

Our Own Christmas

     One year my entire family left for the holidays leaving me behind to celebrate Christmas alone. :( Correy would hear none of that, so we planned a "Our Own Christmas" event. Only Stephanie, Core and I were allowed in. I bought a honey ham, Stephanie brought green beans and stuffing, and Core brought himself and lots of presents.

     We had set up this tiny little tree not even up to my knee with like four ornaments, and a string of lights wrapped around it like a million times. We didn't have a topper so we just molded a tin foil star and put it on top of the tree. We decided that opening presents first instead of eating was a better idea so we went to work on it.

     The first present I opened was a turtle outdoor hanger thingy (it was beautiful - I have it hanging in my living room). Second present I opened was a penguin poster with all the penguins in the world (I love penguins = my favorite animal). Third was a childhood book I loved "The Giving Tree" which my son now loves. And lastly he throws this huge present at me. It knocked me off the couch and as he's laughing hysterically he helps me up. He sits there with this anticipation like "open it open it open it!" So I take my sweet a** time as Stephanie throws herself at the present and starts ripping at it.... all my clothes that I left in Correy's car from diving spill out (bras, underwears, socks, bathing suits, etc.), and at the bottom was this "Best Day Ever" SpongeBob blanket at the bottom of it! Hahaha! It was awesome!

     Then Stephanie got to open her gifts. First was a bottle of Jose Cuervo (don't ask me how he got a hold of it), second was two pictures of Japanese letters framed and everything. Then he hands her a big box only half wrapped.... So she starts unwrapping it, and she digs and digs and there's nothing in it but just crumpled up paper. Oh my gosh Correy and I were just rolling on the floor at her expression (utter confusion and absolute what the heck look). Then he hands her another present which is a Curious the George book. It was so funny. After we're done, Correy gets this really serious look on his face and says, "Yeah, so I'm going to need that box back, it's my moms." Hahaha, we thought he was kidding, but he was so serious.

     We forgot to set the timer for the ham, so we ate half burnt ham, and awesome stuffing and green beans. Quite possibly one of the most memorable times of my life.

***Ashley Caraway

Thursday, September 24, 2009

A London Tale


I vividly remember the day I met Correy, he was six years old and in first grade. I had just arrived home from work and he was playing with our son Grant. I introduced myself to Correy and asked him what his name was, Correy responded, “Cowey” and ran off to play with Grant.  I looked at my wife Louise and asked, “Speech therapy friend?”I have many memories of Correy as a child but I honestly did not know him as a man but I learned much about the adult Correy after I read all the stories written on the various blogs posted on the internet and listening to the stories I heard from his friends and family.

I’ve learned from Correy’s life how much a person can impact peoples’ lives through our everyday interaction with people that we see on a daily basis to those we may only meet one time. After reading literally a hundred accounts of how Correy touched individual lives I began to reflect what type of imprint do I leave in people’s lives, do I leave a memory when I meet someone only once in my lifetime? I’ve wondered if Correy realized just how much he meant to all these people, but I suppose he had no idea just like most of us can’t fathom the ripple effects our actions, good and bad, have on all those around us. I now try everyday to smile and say hello to the clerk in the store, when I’m out on a run I stop to allow cars to pull into parking lots ahead of me and I even try to wave. Recently I saw a patient for another therapist for a one time only visit, there was very little chance I would ever see her again. She was 94 years old, legally blind with a huge bruise on her right arm from a fall. I performed my usual magic with her - exercise, safety instruction, gait training and showed genuine compassion for her. On my way out the door she called my name with outstretched arms and told me she wanted to give me a hug and she even added a kiss. To be honest that was not the first time I received that kind of a reaction from a patient but it was the first time I truly realized the affect I can have on another person’s life. For this I thank Correy.

I’ve learned from Correy’s death that I waste too much time doing things that have no meaning or purpose to me-in Correy’s brief time he learned to have passion for diving and realized what he truly wanted to accomplish in his life. I think about the tattoo on Joe’s wrist about having 30 days to live and I remind myself daily that there is no time, this may be my last day to try something new or to talk with a friend or to hit a perfect drive. So I called a friend and I’m going to learn to play the guitar, I’ve picked up the phone and called friends and family I’ve should have called sooner-I think a few fell out of their chairs- and I’ve been playing more golf as it is something I feel passion for: I even hit some long drives but not the perfect one! For this I thank Correy

I now start each day watching the video created by Correy’s cousin Michael to remind me that I have no time; I must make my impact today as I may not have tomorrow to accomplish it. I tell my family that I love them and am trying to spend more quality time with them. I stop to appreciate that I do make a difference in this world and I am learning to feel the joy that comes with helping others. On the day that I take my final breath it is my fervent hope that I can say that I lived my life to the fullest and I understood the affect my life had on the people I have met. For this I thank Correy.

So may the sunshine bring hope where it once was forgotten…Sons are like birds flying always over the mountains.”

Michael London

It's never too late



"Mom" told me to share my story about Correy, and I haven't really been able to yet. Nor am I really sure how to share it. So I'll just pretend that I'm sharing it with him, because I never got the chance to.

In my life I grew up with a lot of abuse, and by high school I pretty much had a consuming fear of guys. I didn't have any guy friends nor did I make any effort to. My life was routines to stay safe, and soccer to stay occupied and sane. I forget what year it was or even how I met Correy. I do know that at some point he sat behind me in our English class. He went out of h way to be kind to me, and we would always find ourselves in fits of laughter, laughing at something stupid. Correy had to be one of my first God encounters. Something about the way he treated me melted away a paralyzing fear that kept me hiding my entire life. I hid behind silence and behind a hard outer shell. I hid behind a mask of tough tomboy, but it didn't phase or really trick Correy. I'd say his kind heart was the first to crack my shell. It was the first time I felt safe, and for me that was truly a miracle.

You know, I think people take for granted love. We are all longing for some big moment. But I think Correy got it. I think he understood that just simply loving others in all the little ways was what truly mattered. Maybe it sounds corny, but the truth is for my life, that I doubt I'd be alive without my "date" with Correy.

Sometime during that year of English class, I somehow got the nerve up to ask him to our Senior year homecoming dance. I'd never been to a dance, and I'm honestly not sure how I even had the courage to do something like that at that point in my life. I think I made this huge cookie and once it was eaten there was a message asking him to the dance. The best part was that I accidentally embarrassed him really bad. But he recovered a day or so later and said he'd love to go.

It was awesome! I had recently had a major knee surgery so we wore slippers to the dance! I can truly say that I had so much fun. And the most meaningful thing to me was that I felt safe. He made me feel like royalty when I was in the darkest part of my life. It was like a light in the darkness, giving me hope that things could be different.

And now things are. Thanks Correy. I wish I'd been able to tell you this before, but I'm guessing you know now.

Britney Rowland

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Sunflower Smile

When our mom (Correy’s grandma) moved away to Washington State – our family kinda fell apart.  She was the matriarch and she held us together.  The first mothers day after she moved, someone (I think it was Nessa but I’m not positive) decided we would take a picture at a studio to send to Mom.  Nessa color coordinated all of the families, made the appointment and we were good to go.
 
The day of the portrait sitting we all arrived at Oakridge shortly after one another and as ALL families do, there was a lot of bitching and moaning about everything.  “Why wasn’t Jonti wearing the same color as Valerie” – “who decided on this time for the sitting because we were all scrambling” – “we’ll never do this again, that’s for sure”.  I’ll be honest, I felt sorry for the photographer, he had no idea what was walking his way.
 
Anyway, we get in – he situates us all – takes several snapshots.  I know I was thinking, cool, we’re done, I’m out - but then the photographer walks up towards us with one arm behind his back, walks straight up to Correy and puts this sunflower felt hat thing on his head. Just shoves it on there.  I was thinking “Dude – that was a bad idea cause someone is gonna freak out” but no one did which surprised me.  I was mostly surprised because Correy left it on.  Correy was 12 or 13 and at the age where he sure as hell didn’t want someone to force a sunflower hat on him but he didn’t freak.  The photographer had a trunk with all these crazy hats/props and told us to pick one and Correy left the sunflower thing on, didn’t even look to see if there was anything else he’d rather have.
 

When we got the photos back – all the serious ones Correy wasn’t smiling but in the crazy one below, his sunflower face is grinning.  His smile was one in a million from the day he was born.

~~Aunt Jill 

Friday, September 18, 2009

CHAMPION


I met Correy when he was about 5 years old as a friend of my daughter Lori Ann. At first when Lori Ann was speaking of her friend Correy, I as her dad thought it was a girl. She was speaking about her friend coming to spend the night and when Correy arrived I was quite surprised to see that in fact Correy was a boy. I had to get over that one because they were together all of the time.

Lori Ann was a soccer player, and Correy would visit Lori while she was practicing. Lori had soccer practice with her brother Matt at the park by the house. Lori and Matt would ask Correy if he would like to be a goalie and he said yes. I asked if he would like to be a Champion as a goalie, he said yes, so I had him practice with Matt and Lori. I told him that if he practiced one day he will be a champion. I could see in his eyes that someday he will be a champion. The day came when he was a goalie for Herman Jr. High School for the championship game. The game was over and Correy was the champion goalie that day for Herman School and team. (the first time ever the school had one the championship). I knew that day that Correy would be a champion all of his life in all he did and liked to do. I thank the Fedor family for giving me a chance to know all of you.

Cornelius M. Lopez

July 4, 2007.

Hi everyone,

The week I found out about Correy I did a lot of writing. Here’s a short piece from one of my entries...
Correy—along with Sean and Trish—were the first 3 friends I made in Monterey. We were all divers for the Underwater Explorers program at the aq, and were inseparable the summer we spent together. After an attempt at dating (we gave it a shot for a couple of months), we stayed friends. I knew at that time that he was someone I was supposed to keep close. Correy was one of the best divers I’ve known. He was completely dedicated to the sport and profession, and was always careful and smart about his decisions. His dream was to dive for archeological purposes professionally, and I’d rarely met someone his age (then 20) with that kind of directed ambition. He was very much in tune with what he wanted and was willing to work hard to get there. I loved seeing him work with the kids in UE—his enthusiasm for diving was evident in his natural ability to get them in the water and excited about the marine world he cared so much for.

One of my favorite memories of that summer was 4th of July. Correy, Trish, Sean, and I spent the evening on a friend's boat in the Monterey harbor. After taking about an hour to find parking, we spent the rest of the night talking about diving, drinking beer, and watching fireworks over the water. It was a fun night, and even with all the noise and fireworks, I remember the bay looking so peaceful. Since August, I've felt like a piece of our foursome has been missing—Correy always called us the Core Four. I keep looking at these pictures from that night over and over again and just wanted to share them. I miss my friend.

Sameen

Friday, September 11, 2009

Sword Wound

     As mentioned briefly during the eulogy, Correy was waaaay into martial arts for a long time. He was particularly keen (do people say keen anymore?) on the martial arts weapons. Arguably his favorite was the Japanese Katana sword, of samurai fame. At some point after him, I too took up this fantastically fun and dangerous weapon. 
     One particular evening, he and I were in the backyard together practicing. And by practicing, I don't mean trying to hack one another. We were merely doing repetition of the key movements and sword positions, on the way to vaguely mastering them. So there we are spinning and flipping and hacking and slicing through the air, shadow-swording some invisible ninja assailant. Correy is really going to town, spinning the sword in his right hand, around and around, moving front to back like one would spin a baton (sharp baton). He is grinning with delight and pride, showing off a little as the razor-sharp blade came back around and immediately stuck straight into his thigh
     The sword must have been in close to two inches into his flesh, because the entire tapered portion of the blade was buried. Correy just stared at it in disbelief and started laughing his ass off! Crazy kid didn't even wince. When he was done laughing he just grabbed the end of the blade and yanked it back out of his leg as it oozed blood. He never did go to the ER or anything. The benefit of stabbing oneself in the leg with a super sharp Ginsu is that it leaves a nice even clean slice which fits back together nicely.
     Clean cut or not, he still should have let his Doctor-To-Be brother sew him up with whatever string and pliers he could find in the garage...
Preston

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Pirates of Monterey by Andrew Beck

Pirates of Monterey, Part 6
(This comes from Andrew Beck who is writing Pirates of Monterey, this is where Correy comes into the story).


Pirates of Monterey, Part 6
He spit over the shambled wooden fence and tugged idly at his weathered hat, leaning on jagged splinters of a post that had seen too much rain. Sand and grass blew across aloe plants and brown weeds that had given up trying to soak up water through the routine fog. He didn't feel the wind, didn't care to respond to its presence or its direction. His face and form were as stoic and morphic as the dunes themselves; they never changed while you watched them, but given time the changes were noticeable only when looking at pictures snapped years apart. Such pictures yielded a hidden smile that grew with age passed up the cocky sneer or a embarrassed smirk; not as if he was growing into his own shoes, but rather that he tossed the shoes aside and wore sandals instead for their superior comfort and breathability.And this evening, with a postcard sunset and temperature to match, he stood with that weathered hat amongst the thorny brush to lean on the one fence post he visited many times before. He signed as the memories merged in front of his eyes, all indistinct enough from the other that the color of sky from one would merge with the dry heat of another. He smiled the broad sandal smile, proud that he had been here so many times before. With a dirty thumbnail caked underneath from the dirt of raided temples and oil-soaked ropes, he carved in the thirty-second tally mark to the post at a diagonal to the grain. Content with its prominence against the rot, he steadied himself on the barbed wire with a forearm, gazing forward against the breeze.His nose twitched as the evening seabreeze kicked up the same allergies that he forgot to take the pills for today, the same pills he had neglected to take yesterday, and the same pills that he wouldn't care to take tomorrow. The fact that he had thrown the allergy pills overboard two days prior wasn't about need, memory, inaction or action. He thought that too many people attached grand themes to small actions, declaring through their own shiny and unique experience that the patterns of a man can be yielded by his habits. He refused to be defined by Shakespearian dynamics or the chivalrous tales of men long dead. He had no trail to blaze, no demons to slay, no bringer of death to dance with in the night to see if he could walk away. Actions were executed not for the thrill of life, but to play a personal game of trial and error to see what made life thrilling. On the stand for tonight's trial: Corry himself. And Correy didn't like being drowsy when he stormed a bar.Shifting the coiled whip laid across the holster on his right hip, he walked quickly and straight-legged towards the bar with the "snak-snak-snak" of his sandals clicking loudly behind him. He smirked at first, then broke out again into a broad smile that he couldn't contain in the anticipation of the deeds to come. Such deeds had been written into history long ago, scrawled across his memory in drunken chicken-scratch that he would go back to read with fits of laughter. However, his memory was not the only place that the deeds were recorded.All stories are shrouded in time. The game of telephone so many children played in their youth reflects this axiom; a simple message, told in whispers to a waiting ear, could be utterly distorted within five passings. The same holds true with many of Correy's exploits. Many of his stories were later pieced together as best as possible through witness accounts, professional Associated Press reports, a FBI dossier or five ("One for each costume I wear"), prophecies heralding his descent from Valhalla to Earth thousands of years ago, and the one satellite photo of Correy's hundred-foot-long shadow of his heroic pose streak across a barren Kentucky field against the warm glow of a ammunition dump exploding into the crisp night. That particular Mardi Gras weekend he rarely spoke of, although his Captain later said that Correy would only drunkenly mention that "a lot of innocent Nazis died that day" and "victory can be directly measured by the size of the fireball".The first time it was mentioned, local townsfolk swore that the man who entered the bar in a dusty hat in sandals was just a college kid. Roadside bar or not, the place had standards, and sandals were not one of them. Insurance wouldn't cover a joint that invited the possibility of glass to leave the bar via bare feet, but luckily enough, Correy's social insurance did cover dealing with bars that had what he considered to be "rules that invite me right in". Invite generally implies that a welcoming party would grant admission to their own establishment, and Correy strictly adhered to those principles as he was raised a responsible and proud man. To continue that tradition of being that principled man his Daddy demanded he be, Correy welcomed himself into the surprised mouth of a striking dark-haired girl, granted admission of his fist into her boyfriend's jaw, and responsibly turned off the ignition of their car after he had crashed it through the left window of the bar.The details become fuzzy between 7:04 PM when Correy individually dragged out every male occupant of the bar and 3:29 AM when Correy and twenty-nine women came stumbling, laughing and heavily intoxicated, out of the now burning bar clothed in little else than panties, baseball caps, and the occasional bar rag to serve as a loincloth into the drawn guns of the Moneterey Police. In the fray that ensued, the police were simply too shocked with the sight of an oddly familiar armored school bus rigged with military-grade weaponry to roll up and turn on its flood lights to the burning bar to notice Correy riding away on a stolen Harley wearing nothing but a bra, worn baseball cap, and whip coiled around his left shoulder.The extent of damage done the subsequent thirty-one times almost always left a significant portion of the bar intact, but his exploits always remained extravagant.Eventually the bar simply took the measure of running out anyone into the evening that attempted to enter wearing sandals. Correy was never caught, and four years worth of visits eventually turned the crowd from the standard bar flies to adventurers and journalists waiting for the next time the man in sandals and dusty hat might appear again to relieve boyfriends of their duty to their girlfriends or to play bartender over the snoring body of the owner of the bar, occasionally helping him breathe in the silky fumes of chloroform to deepen the throaty snores to a level that Correy was satisfied with. Correy's bar tab always ran extravagantly high--damages nonwithstanding--but the turnout he generated on the days of his absence more than compensated for the cost of his visits.Correy's thirty-second bar outing began unceremoniously--he gained entry by casually walking in, hands in his pocket and grin on his face. His steps were sure and posture unchallenging, and he engaged in conversation with the bouncers in a polite manner that ended up disarming their suspicions. They had never gotten a good look at his face; too much commotion occur in his wake during his more colorful visits, and he rarely made conversation beyond roared one-liners and laughter. He gained entry inconspicuously, navigating the people and conversations openly and honestly without ever alerting them to his actual. It can only be assumed that Correy left as hidden as he entered, for there was no commotion, no fires, no police, no stolen vehicles; there was only a passing mention from the bartender commenting on a substantial amount of cash left in the tip jar he noticed while cleaning the bar that night and a woman's bra stuffed into an empty beer mug. Those who were close to him noted that Correy entered the bar the same manner he exited it--by not looking for life, but by being a vehicle for it.Correy's Captain spent most of that night and the following day waiting for the arrival of Correy that would never come. As the Captain leaned back on the roof of the armored school bus parked behind a shoddy barn some distance down the road, he thought back to the many people he called his own, their arrivals and departures, the times spent with them both memorable and drab. Those who left did so for reasons that never seemed to repeat themselves; some left freely, others were taken against their will, and too many disappeared into the sunset without any mortal comprehension. The Captain never did come to a comfortable conclusion where Correy went or why, and as he later walked to the fence post that he had quietly seen Correy lean against to stare at the bar many times before, he came to the uneasy belief that it was simply best that he didn't know.The Captain rubbed his fingers across the thirty-two tick marks, noticing the aloe vera plants and dried weeds strewn across the mixture of dirt and sand in the long stretch before the bar. He shifted his legs and cursed when a thorny bush at his feet caught his ankle. He wondered how Correy was ever able to wear sandals as an exclusive mode of transportation through all terrains and environments. It seemed Corry simply disregarded the option of wearing the same shoes that everyone else did, instead favoring the option to walk across of the world's comforts and pains he was purpose-built to experience.The Captain never saw Correy as a rebel without a cause, a poet, knight, a prophet, or an martyr. Correy gave very few theories or ideologies any measure of power, sapience, or precedence . With all that the Captain knew of Correy, he knew him to be a simple man whose stark simplicities made him one of the most complex men he had come across. It took more than a few empty bottles and sleepless nights to realize it, but the Captain slowly came to the conclusion that the time spent with Correy had been in the position of a student; not as a teacher he had earlier believed himself to be. In the quiet and empty moments that would haunt him when he was alone, the Captain found it impossible to take comfort from the realization that Correy had passed through his life like a regular at a bar--and more so that he had allowed himself to treat Correy as such. Yet, on the brighter days, the Captain instead sought to take purpose in the lessons of simplicity that Correy had left behind in his brief tour.While the same sun set for the Captain as it had for Correy two days prior, the Captain stood by the fence post with thirty-two tally marks on it and faced the bar in wrinkled clothes. He swallowed the last of whatever random drink he had found in the ship's hold, steadying his swaying as Monterey Bay winds swept up from the road and made him smile. He swayed a bit more, wiped his mouth with a dirty rolled-up sleeve and placed his flask atop the fence post. He stopped a moment to watch it plunk over in the wind and then removed his boots, cracked and faded from years of sun and seawater. After carelessly stepping in the thorns and laughing about it, he moved the boots to flank the fence post. After patting the fence post on the back as he would an old friend, the Captain placed his bloody and thorn-riddled feet in a fresh pair of sandals, etched in the thirty-third tally mark in the fence post, and walked with a smirk over to the bar as the shimmering sun sank into the sea.-----"Mama told me, when I was youngCome sit beside me, my only sonAnd listen closely, to what I sayAnd if you do thisIt will help you some sunny dayTake your time, don't live too fastTroubles will come, and they will passGo find a woman and you'll find loveAnd don't forget sonThere is someone up aboveAnd be a simple kind of manBe something you love and understandBaby be a simple kind of manWon't you do this for me sonIf you can?"

RIP Sojourner. We'll pick up where you left off.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Whip Cream

And if anyone is wondering where Correy got the famous "Whipped Cream Escapade" is from is his parents....Unc Joe and Aunt Ness??? Does it ring a bell that no one will let you in on where they are honeymooning?? Joe and Ness seem to have taken delight in Whip cream in the honey mooners sweet, Lip stick on the mirror, selophane on the toilet and taking the voice box off of the phone....hmmmm..Yep, Correy learned from the best of em.

Joanne Bria

Folf?

Well, he amd Matt had me convinced that Folf was practically an Olympic event! It was weeks later that they finally owned up that the name Folf was made up, that its just frisbee golf... I went to serve whipped cream for the pumpkin pie atThanksgiving..nothing left.Correy had struck again!

Lori Poublon-Ramirez

Little Boy Memory


We remember him riding back and forth in his electric car, some times with the little girl down the street. They looked so cute, he was so serious.

Aunt Gina and Uncle Dale

Story from the Dive Log of Roy #1

Sunday 11/25/2007
 
All,

Correy, Paul and I got a couple of boat dives in yesterday. On our first dive we did a wreck dive, night dive, deep dive, navigation dive all in crazy one dive. We dove the Mating Amtrak's by Lovers. The water was red and the vis was crappy at the surface. As we went down the anchor line it was mucky dark. So dark I couldn't even read my gauges right in front of my face After descending about 50 feet the vis cleared to about 4 feet. It was dark and eerie and there was a bit of surge. I had a small focus light from my camera and a small flash light with weak batteries. We went down deeper to 85 feet and stopped at the anchor. It was so dark we couldn't see the the wreck. I looked at Paul and Correy and laughed at them cause they were both looking at me with big eyes and wondering what we were going to do next. We can abort the dive but what the hell I tell myself. I  signal to Correy to break out his spool. He looks at me and I think he gives me the bird. So I reach over to him smack him in the head and unsnap his spool from his backplate and attach the bolt snap to the anchor. I give the signal to swim and we head off into the surge and darkness. I prayed we placed the anchor close to the Amtrak's. We let out about 80 feet of line and start to circle. I could feel the line snag on something and we reel back. The amtracks appear out of the darkness. It looks very large especially when you can't see the length of it due to the vis. We do a lap or two around the wreck and I try for a picture or two. No luck with the pictures the surge is too strong for my macro setup. We regroup check our air and start reeling back to the anchor. I was happy to find it where we left it. Up the anchor line into the muck.  Think swimming in a chocolate milkshake. I am having a hard time reading my gauges because the vis is so crappy. Thousands of jelly fish are all around us. We do a 4 minute safety stop and surface. What a fun dive. We get into the boat and the topside water is flat. We run the inflatable at full speed back to the dock for more tanks. For a small boat she really fly's when the water is flat. Bummer no waves today to practice having my passengers fly out of the boat. Oh well.
 
Second dive was at the Steam Engine. At the surface I get a mouthful of the red water and throw up. What a foul taste and smell. Down we go again into the darkness. I pee into my borrowed wetsuit and it feels like a wet dream. I was happy to see I placed the anchor right next to the steam engine wheel. We use the crack in the ocean floor as our navigation line up and back. We get caught in the surge on the return trip back to the anchor and Paul is running low on air. We have to do a 80 foot free ascend in the mucky darkness. We lose Correy I stay with Paul. The jellies sting the crap out of my face on our safety stop. I was happy to surface but I rubbed my face with my gloves to get the snot off my face. My eyes swells shut from the jelly stingers. Correy drives the boat back to the dock. After a fresh water shower my eye feels better.

We dine at the Ocean Sushi Deli on Webster Street. The food tasted so good.

What a fun day of diving. Good times.

Roy

Monday, September 7, 2009

"Baking Cookies"

For any of you that know Correy, I'm sure you've heard at least one laughing reference to "baking cookies." You might have even asked him if he wanted to bake something and received a laugh out of it. Whether you have or not, here's an inside joke from me and my boys.

Junior year of high school I had invited Matt, Correy, and Travis over to bake some chocolate chip cookies and watch "Monty Python and the Holy Grail." When these three showed up at my front door Correy had one of his typical smirks on his face. Instead of trying to figure it out I asked if they were ready for a funny movie and to bake some cookies. To this question Correy just started laughing so we asked for an explanation. I'm unsure if it was Jarred or Preston who was home with Correy before he came over to my house, but whichever brother it was had asked Correy what he was doing. Apparently Correy responded that he was coming over to my house to bake some cookies. The big brother response? "Oh, is that what you kids call it these days?...."

It was that day that baking cookies was no longer in reference to chocolate chip or snickerdoodles, but "baking cookies" was our code word for sex. The one who had sex the most was a good baker, girls that were younger were called "easy bakes," and anytime anyone outside of our group mentioned baking cookies none of us could help but laugh. So to Preston or Jarred, whichever one of you asked Correy what his plans were on that one afternoon when we were 16, I would like to thank you for the longest standing inside joke between me and my favorite boys. I know we still laugh every time we hear it, and wherever Correy is, I know that he'll be laughing too. So the next time any of you start to bake cookies (and I do mean actually bake bake, not "bake"), just take a moment to realize that Correy is laughing and thinking about sex. I know that's what I do, and that's what Tony, Matt, Laura, Leanna, Travis, and I did when we all came together when we came home for the service: we baked cookies for Correy.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

A New Little Brother

     I have a vague and amusing memory of when my mom found out she was pregnant with Correy. It is not the clearest memory ever, but then again, I was only six years old. I am not certain I have any other memory from being six, so this is pretty significant.
     Something was in the air, something different. Mom was lying on the couch. This was an odd thing in itself, as mom never rested, was always doing something. However, this particular afternoon, she was camped out on the couch watching TV. She just didn't feel right. I think I asked her what was wrong, and she mentioned that she did not feel well, and in fact, felt like she did the last time she was pregnant. I was excited out of my mind, but was cautioned that it was only a feeling, and she was totally sure. For some reason, there was no way for her to know at the time, but a few days later... oh yeah, I was going to be a big brother again.
     If I recall correctly, mom didn't want to know the gender of the child until the delivery, as she had with Jarred and me; but, as any woman with two mischievous boys, less than secretly hoped for a girl. Nine months and any number of new baby-holding and diaper-changing classes for we two boys, and out popped Correy - a bouncing crying baby boy. Of course mom and dad couldn't have been happier when all was said and done. 
    And to boot, dad gained the privilege of saying, "My Three Sons," which is apparently a throw back to an old television show of the American Dream...

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Short One

This one probably goes against the grain for the Correy that you all know, but it's pretty typical if you know a 5 - 6 year old or two.

Christmas or a birthday one year, we went to visit Ness and Joe and the boys.  I, of course, had to tote the presents in from the car.  Ness had come out to the front step to greet us and I noticed that Correy was clung to her pant leg with a huge smile on his face.

Smile was for the presents....not for his cousin.

He said something to the effect of, "Are those for me?!!"

I chuckled (more of a "you spoiled little..." chuckle) and said, "Nooo, sorry bud".

That huge smile and those big blue eyes of his quickly disappeared as he turned into his mom's leg and started bawling like you wouldn't believe.

That is my oldest and only memory that really stands out of Correy when he was a youngling.

Thought you might all appreciate it.

Story courtesy of Ashley (unedited)

I have a ton of Correy stories, but I'll tell you one that is probably the only absolutely clean story I have:

     We were in Advanced Scuba together. I had gotten out of the pool early one night to avoid doing this one practice procedure we were working on.  We had to put our masks at the bottom of the pool on the deep end and had to go to the middle of the pool.  Then we had to dive down, grab our mask, clean our mask and then come to the surface and clear our snorkel.  Fun stuff.  Correy knew I didn't appreciate going one at a time practicing this awful procedure because everyone would just be waiting a staring at you.  Anyway, the scuba instructors let me get out, because I had an "ear ache" and I figured I dodged that bullet.  
     Your wonderful brother decided to keep reminding the instructors that I hadn't finished one of the practices we were working on.  So finally about two weeks after being reminded, there was a time when Correy and I arrived early to the pool.  I quickly suggested that I get my gear on and do the "mask clearing thing."  The instructors agreed that it would be okay.  What I didn't know is all the instructors were already there (and they came in packs).  Correy yelled out, "Hey guys, Ashley's going to get in the pool and do her masking clearing!"  I could've punched him.
     I put my mask at the bottom of the pool, swam to the middle and darted for my mask.  When I came up and cleared my snorkel everyone was screaming and cheering, "Yay! Go Ashley.... Woooo!"  I think the temperature of the pool went up ten degrees from either embarrassment or from being irritated with Correy.  Either way, it's one of those things that make me laugh out loud now, and one of those times I could've killed Correy.
     In retaliation though, we went to a hookah bar one night (the one where Correy had this big crush on this girl behind the counter).  Anywho, I told him this would be the night for revenge...  We ordered our usual fruity tobacco, and he always tried to flirt and little with this girl (but always ended with an atomic bomb exploding between them).  We sat down with a couple of scuba friends, and we started to pull out our cards to play a couple rounds of 13.  I looked over at that girl, and she was giving Correy the "well hello" look.  I immediately told him, "I'm giving you 5 minutes to go talk to that girl and get her number, or I'm going to go get her number."
     We kept playing our game and the girl meandered over a couple times, trying to tell these really funny jokes (but the ones you really wanted to gag at).  Anyway, Correy made no attempt to talk to this girl what-so-ever, so I got up and started backwards counting... 10, 9, 8.... while Correy kept saying, "You're not gonna do it..." 6, 5, 4..... "Ashley don't!!" 2, 1.... "Ashley!"
     I went up to the counter and started talking with her.  Asking her if she like her job, yada yada yada... I asked her for her number for Correy.... turns out.... she was checking me out the whole night.  I got her number and walked back to Correy, and simply said, "I got her number."  He didn't need to know anything further.  He was always bringing up how he would've gotten her number at some point.  My response always being "yeah right."

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Evidence of goodness

     I suppose most of us don't need any hard evidence to tell us that Correy is a good guy. He would go to the ends of the Earth to help out a friend or family member or even total stranger. But I ran into some concrete evidence recently that made me smile.
     I picked up Correy's copy of (arguably) his favorite book, one that helped identify and fuel his life goal of joining the National Park Service's underwater archaeology team... Submerged. Buried within the well-worn, water-stained pages of this book was an improvised bookmark - a old Burger King receipt. It is from early July of an unknown year, drawn from Burger King store #1650, drive thru. Looking at the receipt I noticed an awful lot of food listed, more than any one man (even my brother) could eat. This voluminous receipt was the result of Correy apparently paid for the food for everyone in the car, which appears to be either two or three people (depending on how hungry they were). But that's Correy, man, generous and kind, even when he didn't have a lot of spare dough to go around.
     So nothing groundbreaking, but something that made me chuckle and reminded me of what a good guy my brother is.